Have you fallen in love? Since everyone’s notion of “love” is different, I think 99% of people can say that they have been in love with someone they shared a romantic relationship with, at one point or another. Some of these relationships are fruitful-the long-term and made-for-each-other type. And, it’s great to see couples go through a lifelong journey of togetherness, it reinvigorates your faith in everlasting love.
But, not everyone can tell the same tale. Happy endings aren’t the case for some, and eventually, the two people who were so in love, or thought that their casual dating had the spark to turn into something more serious, part ways. The reasons, you ask? There could be plenty!
Some think they’re not compatible with their partner; others are torn apart because of long distance; misunderstandings and even something as heartbreaking as cheating is the cause of a lot of breakups. Apart from these reasons, there are people who have called off their relationships because they can’t fathom the thought of being with someone that is, plain and simple, a psycho.
Everyone deserves love and respect from their significant other. No one should be subject to mental torture for seeing their parents (like the woman in story #22); a partner should always respect their significant other’s space and not encroach when they’re not wanted (like the man in story #29); and no one should be stalked for years on end after being rejected (I bet the girl in story #11 can’t agree more!).
There are thousands of people who have horror stories from the time they were romantically involved with someone they regret being with. We couldn’t get them all, but here are 33 women who share their terror tales of the time when they were dating some seriously psychotic men!
1. He was hitting on my co-worker and blamed me for cheating
“My ex once memorized my Facebook password and then logged in, going through my old messages until he found one where I had picked up an older conversation with one of my male coworkers. He then proceeded to pretend to be me and hit on this guy, eventually taking it so far as to plan a time and place for us to hook up.
Then he texted me asking what these messages were about and why I was cheating on him. I was so confused initially, I didn’t realize it was him who had hacked me, I just pleaded my innocence and begged his forgiveness because I had no idea where the messages were coming from.
Eventually, he told me that he was the one coercing my co-worker for s*x and, that somehow, because my co-worker agreed that clearly meant we had slept together before?
I have no idea what his thought process was through all of this, but I stupidly stayed with him for a while after that. And it did permanently wreck the friendship I had with my co-worker.” HikingMakesMeHappy
2. He was sending love letters to multiple women
Just when this guy thought he was being slick and smooth, the truth comes out, and for good reason too. Good try there, buddy! Before sharing the story, here’s a thought: I wonder how he thought he’d be able to get away with this without getting caught?
“We were long distance. While visiting him, I found handwritten love letters that were VERBATIM what he had written to me. Except these ones had different women’s names on each one.” Hippotheh
3. He was just outright abusive
“He threw me across the room by my neck. Then proceeded to threaten that he would accuse me of attacking him if I were to tell anyone. He supported his threat with self-inflicted injuries. I have been to the police about this and they have charged him. The case is working its way through the judicial system now. I trust the system in my country to reveal the truth of that night and respond accordingly despite his best efforts to undermine that trust with his threats.” A-LC
4. He kept talking to his mom, but she was dead
It’s a thing to speak to people who have passed. Psychologists say it’s normal immediately after a passing because it allows the family a bit of closure and comfort at a time when they feel helpless and traumatized after the loss of a loved one. But, what if someone is constantly talking to a person who’s been dead for years?
“Kept talking on the phone and texting his mother during the date. She died years ago.” TheOneWhoCared
5. He lied about being in the military
“He said he was going to the woods to shoot himself, I called the police, told them I thought he was having a military PTSD event, they stopped him, took his gun, and informed me he was NEVER IN THE MILITARY. FOUR YEARS into my marriage. W*F. I took photos of all the holes in my walls and got myself a restraining order and a divorce. Courts don’t much appreciate Stolen Valour being your excuse for violence and emotional abuse/manipulation. He was a skilled con-man, gaslighter, and an abuser. As far as I know, he did the same to his second wife, who also divorced his pathetic a*s.” dragonsvomitfire
6. He had schizophrenic tendencies
“My husband is clinically bipolar and can have schizophrenic tendencies. He wasn’t like this until 8 years into the relationship.
Suddenly all his trust in me was gone, he would have hallucinations of things that “proved” I was cheating. Any nice dress or makeup that I wore became a “sign.” His jealousy skyrocketed, he would give me the silent treatment for days and then explode in anger if he saw me chatting with a co-worker, or smiling at the store clerk. He started logging into my Google account on the home computer and would track my phone. My work was next to a restaurant. Sometimes my Google would get a little off and say I was at that restaurant and he would see that and think I must have lied to him about going to work.
I was miserable. We agreed that he needed to go to see a doctor, and he did, and with his diagnosis, I knew that he really was having psychotic episodes. Things are getting better now.” jackster_
7. He punished me for changing up the living room
“In order to walk from the bedroom to the kitchen, I had to walk through the living room and in front of the TV. I always did it super quickly, but I always got yelled at. Sometimes I would have to wait 20-30 minutes before I was allowed to walk past.
One day, while my husband was out (he’s my ex-husband now), I decided to rotate the entire living room. I put the TV on a different wall and moved the couch so it faced the TV. Basically, the living room was exactly the same, just rotated 90 degrees…now when I walked from the bedroom to the kitchen, I didn’t have to walk between the couch and the TV.
When my husband got home, he saw the living room, said nothing about it. We ate dinner and he watched TV as usual. Then we went to bed. The next morning he refused to get out of bed or talk to me. He refused to leave the house, go to class, go watch TV, anything. He would not say one word. I kept trying to get him to tell me what was wrong and he wouldn’t. For three solid days, he only got out of bed to grab food or use the restroom. He would not talk to me, would not make eye contact, or acknowledge my presence. I was panicking thinking he was having some sort of episode.
At the end of three days, he said he felt like I had adequately been punished for re-arranging the living room without asking. He even told me to keep it that way. It made more sense and he liked it better like that. He still had to punish me for what I did though.” halfwaythere88
8. He wouldn’t let me break up with him because he had my DVDs
“I had started seeing this guy, we had gone on maybe four or five dates and had been hanging out for a month. One day he asks me to meet his family for the first time. I agree, with plans to pick him up from his apartment that evening and drive to his parents’ place together.
That afternoon I’m out running errands and get a call from him. He calmly tells me there’s been a change of plans and I will need to pick him up from the hospital before we go to his parents’ house; his grandfather (who had been battling cancer for about a year) had passed away an hour ago.
Obviously, realizing how traumatic and sad this is, I tell him I will come to pick him up and drop him off wherever he wants to go. I suggest we can go get coffee or ice cream if he needs to talk but he says, ‘No I just want us to go meet up with the rest of my family.’
At this point, I say, ‘Oh…Well, I don’t think today is the best day to meet your entire family…’ and this sets him off. He starts telling me I’m being selfish, a b***h, and should be with him tonight to help him through this. I keep responding that I just don’t feel comfortable going over for dinner while his family mourns together. He proceeds to ask me why, asks if it’s because I’m hanging out with someone else and cheating on him.
I understand that this must be a terrible day for him, so I keep trying to explain that I just want to give his family some respect and let them mourn without a newcomer in the mix. He even mentions his parents want to cancel the evening but he needs me, so I have to come.
All this is going on while I’m at the grocery store, waiting in line to check out. When I’m finally about to reach the cashier, I tell him that I’m just about to pay at the store and will call him back once I’ve got my stuff loaded in the car. He accuses me of cheating on him, before hanging up.
I throw my phone into my bag and can feel it buzzing with notifications. Not even 10 minutes later, I sit down in my parked car and pick my cell back up. 17 missed calls, 43 unread text messages.
They all went back and forth between being really angry and threatening to super apologetic and begging for my forgiveness. It was such a flip of extremes that truly all I could say was, ‘Woah.’ I wanted to give him the benefit of a doubt, that he was just mishandling a truly traumatic situation, so as he called again I picked up and told him it might be best to talk again in an hour after things had cooled down a bit. He refuses, then launches into a rant about how I’m cheating, he doesn’t want me to leave the following week to go on a grad trip I had booked and paid for months in advance (before even meeting him) because he didn’t want me unsupervised around men. Also, he expected me to stop working out because I was clearly just doing it to stay in shape and attract guys.
At that point, I told him I would not stand to be talked to that way, but he kept berating me. I pleaded with him to just call me tomorrow. After he threw a few more ‘b*****s’ at me, I straight up told him I was going to end this if he continued. He responded that I couldn’t break up with him because I had left my entire DVD collection at his house. I told him to keep it, and ended things that day.” bahdaydoze
9. He knew he was psycho
It’s one thing to behave like a psycho, but when your partner KNOWS there’s something wrong and happily admits to the fact, then I’d say there’s a problem. I don’t blame this woman for being afraid. It’s scary to just think about it, wouldn’t you agree? Check out the quick version of one ex-girlfriend’s tale, and see for yourself:
“When I locked him out of the house and said, ‘You’re a psycho,’ he smiled knowingly.” ginnywaterfall89
10. Apparently, I was lying about having no car
“I sent him a text saying I was going to go home, change, and get my car and I would be over. I didn’t have my car because my cousin was driving. He flipped out saying ‘If it’s such a chore then don’t come out,” followed by, ‘You’re probably stalling to f@$% your ex,” and then some other statements. Side note, we have been talking a week and never once have any of these problems arisen. So, yeah, a red flag that he is probably crazy. The rest of the next hour was him sending me screenshots of our of past conversations explaining how I was the liar.” yambercork
11. He’s sending me flowers after I rejected him 7 years ago
“I knew this guy, Adam, in middle school, but became friends around our freshman year. We had a few classes together and would hang out after school in groups with other mutual friends, including my boyfriend at the time.
One day, out of the blue, I get a text from Adam and he confesses his love for me. We weren’t that close as friends, never hung out alone. I don’t believe I ever gave him a reason to think that I had those kinds of feelings for him. I tell him that while I am flattered, I don’t have the same feelings. I try to let him down easy.
Adam takes it hard, he avoided me in class and stopped hanging out with our friends. After a month or so, things go back to normal. This is where the red flags come up.
I start getting flowers delivered to my house. They’re from Adam. After the 4th delivery, I call the florist and ask to stop having flowers sent to me. Then I get envelopes full of torn petals. One day, I come home and there is a box of roses on my bed. When I asked my dad if he brought them into my room for me, my dad tells me he didn’t. We check all the doors and windows, and the latch on my window is broken. Adam broke into my house.
We called the cops, but with no proof of it really being Adam, nothing was done. My older brother takes it into his own hands and threatens Adam, and things cool down for a while.
Now 7 years and a restraining order later, I still get anonymous flowers and letters sent to my parents’ house occasionally, but we all know its Adam.” lovelylaitlyo
12. He’s tagged the ultimate “clinger” for a reason
Some people need a lot of attention. But perhaps some of that attention might be better coming from a doctor before things get out of hand.
“Stage 20 clinger status. Always found an excuse to come over, even after I’ve repeatedly told him no. Shows up at my door anyway, and would conveniently be around for dinner so he’d have an excuse to eat my food. This boy was 27 years old and the epitome of a pathetic loser. Long story short, police had to be involved and a restraining order filed.” Goodmournin
13. He was definitely not a gentleman
“A guy I was casually dating was giving me a lift back to my car after a night of hanging with some friends. I got a little confused with the directions as it was an area I wasn’t that familiar with and the one-way streets were throwing me off. After driving down two streets and not being able to locate my car, he angrily pulled over and told me to just get out. At 2 am. In the middle of downtown Los Angeles.” Reddit User
14. He thought my parents wouldn’t believe he was psycho
I guess he thought if he couldn’t get through to her, her parents would intervene and get them back together…nice try, dude!
“I was still living with my parents at the time when I broke up with this guy. I went to my night class for college and came home to find him on the couch crying to my mom about how I broke his heart. The next week he tried to break into my car when I was leaving work.” littleredeel
15. He hasn’t changed his pants in 10 years
I love fashion, and I get that there will be things in your wardrobe that you just can’t part with. But this young man took his passion for an article of clothing way too far, don’t you think so?
“I met a guy on an online dating website. Had a few phone calls with him and things seemed good. Then he tells me he had a favorite pair of pants when he was in high school. He wore them every day until they became too ragged to wear. Then he started wearing them under his normal pants. Every day, still wearing them ten years later, under his pants…” khoskamr
16. He spread rumors about me to date me…
“I was once dating a guy who was a bit shy and very sweet but lacked self-confidence. After four very fun dates, he suddenly became distant, seemed down and we stopped dating.
Cut to seven weeks later, I’m dating some other guy. After 3 dates he suddenly asks, out of nowhere, ‘How does it feel that I won you over?’ Confused, I asked what he meant. He explained he ‘took down,’ as he called it, the guy I was dating earlier by feeding him lies about me just dating him out of pity so that his self-confidence would be crushed and he would stop dating me. He said this as if he was proud of it and I should be impressed. He then claimed to have the right for his ‘first time’ as a reward.
No ‘first times’ were had that evening. After the date with Mr. D*******g, I went back to the guy I dated first. I told him I knew what happened and we started dating again. We are together for 5.5 years now.” datingthrowaway34569
17. He sent each message multiple times, in different ways
“One night, in the course of packing lunch for my children, I received a series of communication from a guy I had just started talking to.
Him: ‘Whatcha doing?’
Him: ‘?’
Me: ‘Hi! Making lunch for the kids. I’ll text after they’re in bed.’
Him: ‘Gotcha. Go ahead, do your thing.’
Him: ‘What’s for lunch?’
Him: ‘I bet you make those cute little mini sandwiches.’
Him: (Calls) ‘Sorry. I didn’t mean to call you. Got your voicemail but hung up. Unless you’re done and ready to talk?’
Him: ‘So where do you want to go when we meet? You seem really sweet and that’s a real turn on.’
Him: ‘Are you mad that I said turn on? I know we haven’t gone on a date yet, but I think we will. I hope so.’
Him: (online dating site message) ‘Just making sure you are getting my messages. I don’t want you to think I am ignoring you.”
We had agreed to talk at 8:30. It’s 7. This goes on for a while as I’m ignoring my phone and getting my kids to bed.
8:25 the phone rings. I don’t answer because I’m not in the same room as my phone.
8:26: ‘Hey I tried to call you.’
8:27 (online message): ‘Are we still talking tonight?’
8:30: I pick up my phone to call him and it rings. I tell him I was just about to call him and he says, ‘Oh we think so much alike.'” surpassing_disasters
18. He wanted to shoot anyone who came to visit me
“He offers to pay for your nose job or b**b job for your birthday after you’ve been dating for 3 months, and you’ve never mentioned wanting either. You’re ‘not allowed’ to wear anything that shows your legs because you’re ‘too pale’ and ‘no one wants to see that.’ He threatens to shoot anyone who comes over, including your family, best friend, etc. He calls all of his exes s***s, but keeps folders of naked pictures of them on his computer, and boxes of pictures and panties, and wants you to look at them. At 28, he lets his parents make all of his decisions and won’t do anything without consulting his parents first.” eratoast
19. He openly admitted to wanting to stalk me
“I agreed to go out to dinner with someone I knew from my high school days after running into him at the ER where he worked. Before our date, I had to go back for a follow up with my daughter and of course, he is there. After my appointment, for which he kept hanging around for, he walked me out to my car. On the way out he says ‘I want to see what you drive so I know you are where you say you are.'” NYGalz
20. He thought I was a spy
People can be paranoid, especially if they’ve been through a tough time or if they’ve done something they shouldn’t have. The latter example is of the people you shouldn’t feel sorry for. They think that everyone is out to get them, THAT’S how guilty they can be. Check out how one suspicious guy totally freaked out his poor date. Personally though, I may have played along.
“When he continually asks me if I was sent by the government to watch him.” madam_waggles
21. Abusive relationships SUCK, and he taught me the tough way
“He threatens you when you’re not home right on time for work. He says it annoys him when you’re with his friends. Basically any time he questions you behaving like a normal human being or invalidates your feelings. He gets mad and doesn’t speak to you if you don’t sleep with him. My ex broke my phone and threw it over our fence into the woods so I stayed at my parents’ house that night to get away from him. When I came home he had shred all of my clothing, broke every personal item I had, and used my makeup to write ‘f@$%ing fat w***e’ on my blankets and pillows that were also cut up. That was two years ago and I still have panic attacks if I see someone that dresses like him or hear someone with his bad mannerism. I have a wonderful partner now but still.” twokittiess
22. He wanted to trump my family
“I had just moved out of home for the first time and said I couldn’t hang out cause my mum was bringing some of my stuff over. His response was: ‘I assumed I would be more important than your family by now.’ We had been seeing each other for around 6 months. That and inviting me out to dinner, not speaking to me the entire meal, making me pay for both of us and then yelling at me in the street when I said I didn’t want to stay at his place. Class act that fellow was.” Synthbonez
23. He self-harmed and called it a gift for me
Ok, this one is a bit gruesome, so brace yourself. But, before sharing the story with you, let me ask you a question: What is the worst or scariest gift that you’ve received? Are you thinking of that lime green sweater from Gran last Christmas? Or, maybe someone pranked you and gave you an empty box for your birthday, saying they got you “nothing.” Can it get worse than that? Yup, read about it for yourself:
“When he’s sliced his hairy n****e off and given it to you in a small box.” herojima4
24. He wanted kids…at 17
What are you possibly thinking about at the age of 17? Hanging out with your friends after school? Or, ways of skipping class and making sure your parents don’t find out. Yup, the normal things teenagers think about and plot while they’re stuck in class all day. Well, we can’t say the same about this young man. He had other plans in mind.
“High school. We’re seventeen. Been dating two weeks. He starts a conversation: ‘You know, I’m excited to raise our kids to be soldiers for Jesus.’
Me: ‘Stephen, I don’t believe in Jesus.’
Him: ‘Yeah but, you will. I’ll show you.'” schulace
25. He would keep my used hankies
Some people are weird, and then there are others who are unbearably weird. Here’s a story for you, I’ll let you judge the person on the scale of weird. Your call.
“I had a partner keep my used hankies in his pockets. To always have a part of me with him when I wasn’t there. His friends and I had to tackle him to get them out of his pockets and then wash them. He didn’t talk to anyone for days.” automatedcrumpet
26. He brought another woman to our first date
That already sounds a bit crazy right? Anyone would be upset if a man brought another woman to a date. It’s demeaning and insulting. Nobody would stick around longer than they have to when something like that happens. But, I really wonder happened in this situation. How long did it go on for?
“First date and he says, ‘Hope you don’t mind, I invited my mom to come to meet us for a drink.'” namelessdame
27. He fell in love with my voice and became a stalker
“I spoke to him once on the phone. He was at a mutual friend’s house on holiday. I said ‘Hi, how are you?’ He made a high pitched giggle and handed the phone back to my friend. She gave him my address (she and I exchanged packages in the mail. She was in Germany, I’m in Australia) and he started sending me letters and little gifts. I start getting calls from customs because he’s apparently sending me jewelry without paying the right amount of tax on it. I tell them to send it back.
On the ‘one year anniversary’ of our phone ‘conversation,’ he sends me a floral arrangement, via Interflora, that’s as tall as me with 18 red and white roses (white for my youth and purity, red for b***d, and 18 because that was my age, he was a lot older.) This is when I got the police involved.
He continued to send me messages that he loved me, forgave me for involving police, that he didn’t mind that I had a boyfriend (who I was with before I even knew this nutter existed) because my boyfriend would understand that he and I were meant to be together; we were meant to be because we had the same b***d type. He followed my favorite band around Europe, getting his photos taken with them in a t-shirt bearing my name along with their song lyrics. He said he knew where I lived and that he was coming to steal me away.
Customs called me after intercepting more packages from him, they contained b***d.
The police blocked him from entry to the country and I didn’t think any more about it until about a year later. I was watching Border Patrol and saw him arriving at Sydney airport and being detained by police before being deported. My heart froze.” Repulsia
28. He lives with MY parents and we’re divorced…
“He still lives with MY parents 10 years after I divorced him. We both were unemployed at the same time and desperate. My father is away on business trips for about 50% of the year. My mother was happy to help get us on our feet, and she has the added bonus of having someone around the house for company and security.
I got a job, the ex got a job. I started really not liking living with my parents but I think he liked my family. I think he had a rough childhood and my family was more of the plastic smiles glued to your faces at Thanksgiving kind of family. I think he was very comfortable there so when I started looking for apartments, with the rental market being so rough, all he had to do was delay signing a paper for a day or two and BAM, apartment gone.
My parents love my ex. He’s a nice and charming guy, I wouldn’t have married him otherwise. I think my Mom let him stay because she felt bad that I divorced him, I think she also likes the security of having a man about the place.
I’ve since remarried and had a child. Let’s just say family holidays are awk-waaaaaard.” rakshala
29. He moved into my house and refused to leave…
“We dated in HS briefly. He moved to TX for three years. He moves back to NJ for me he says. Once he moves to NJ, on the first day of his arrival, he asks me for a place to stay. I barely knew the guy anymore. He stays a week. I am still living at my mom’s. He won’t leave. We (my entire family) politely ask him. He says it is ‘because he is part of our family now.’ He sits down for dinner with us even when we ask him not to. He sleeps in my bed when I sleep out (I sleep at my current boyfriend’s house every night). He. Just. Won’t. Leave. I break and tell him if he doesn’t leave, I’m calling the cops. By this point in time, my sister (9 years old) has called me three times complaining that he walks around the house naked. My brother tells me that he spends hours in my room smelling my stuff.
One day he finally agrees to leave.
I come home that night from a friend’s house and there he is AGAIN. Nobody invited him in, no one even knew he was in the house. He is eating food from the fridge and tells me he is part of our family now and you can’t kick family out of the house. It’s Christmas morning, around 5 am, so my family is waking up. He asks where his presents are. I kick him out again, forcefully. Like, push him out the door.
Later that evening, I go over to my father’s house. My dad was out of town but keeps his keys in the mailbox for me. He is in there, sitting on the couch and watching TV like nothing is wrong. I tell him he broke into my dad’s house and that I’m going to call the police. He threatens s*****e.
He follows me to TN for a music festival, and after that, I don’t hear from him. I don’t know where he lives now.” juniperslats
30. He wouldn’t let me crush celebrities
This one sounds really weird, right? Like, come on, who doesn’t find Jason Momoa hot AF? But, unfortunately, this poor girl just couldn’t be herself around the man she was dating. Even thinking celebrities were good looking people was a problem. My suggestion: RUN!
“‘Do you find celebrities hot? Yes?!?!?! We have no future. That’s basically cheating. Bye.’
He was 19, and this was said to me after 2 months of a not-official-LDR.” PrincessSluggy
31. He went undercover to live in my home
Hmmm, this story sounds familiar. I guess he would do anything to get his family back?
“I once asked my husband to move out for a while. Things were tense and not really working out. So, I went and looked to hire some extra help around the house since I couldn’t take care of the place all in my own. We hired a nice little old lady and the kids loved her. Well, turns out the old lady was my ex-husband in disguise. Red flag!” VirgilFox
32. He may have been a murderer
You always want to do a little background check before you get into the dating scene with someone. They may look all innocent and naive, but you never know what secrets they may be hiding. One woman had to put two-and-two together and then run!
“When he says ‘I killed someone once’ and tells you an elaborate story about running guns and d***s, but you also know his ex-wife was murdered, case unsolved.” Reddit User
33. When I said “No,” he brought his family along to convince me
“He asks you out to prom, but you decline telling him you only think of him as a friend and you want to go alone. Turns up on prom night with his family (mum, dad, sisters, and granny) at your front door anyway. The mother is in tears with happiness on you now ‘going out’ with her son. Takes place the most awkward prom photo ever. He tries to kiss you in front of everyone.” ekkyroo
Aren’t these stories something else? Which one did you find the most appalling? Tell us in the comments below!
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