madi1
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No means no. Struggling means no. We don't touch other people without their permission. Ignoring consent is assault.
Yes, yta. Your experience may differ from hers and believing she's exaggerating is misogynistic. You're piling on what she already deals with. Believe your wife about her experience. It's the least you can do.
Mormon weddings (sealings) happen in temples and if you're not "worthy" you can't attend. Reading between the lines, dad has an affair, which excluded him from attending the sealing. The walking down the aisle part doesn't matter because that doesn't happen at sealings anyways, but if you get married civilly, you have to wait a year to be sealed. They could have done a ring ceremony at the reception, but a lot of inactive family feel this isn't good enough or the same because it's not the actual wedding and ring ceremonies are highly discouraged.
Now, I understand why the religious stuff is so important to op's sister and i do think the OP is TA, mostly because if dad cheated, she has a legit beef with dad. Someone dying doesn't just make all of it better. Having said that, bro doesn't have to just forgive her for his feelings either, so yes, I think he's TA, but I don't think it's because he can't forgive her. I think it's because he's a hypocrit for expecting her to forgive and go way outside her religious bounds to accommodate her dad but he's not willing to do the same for her.
If she has permission, she has her own card that's connected to the same account. If she has dad's card and dad isn't there to sign, that's illegal and the store can be held liable. Nta.