Ree1778
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Why not tell your engaged sister that you'll be glad to do a cake for free as long as it's just a beautifully decorated cake, like you did for your other sister. It's all the extras that make it impossible to do for free.
If she would like to have an extra cake that includes all the dietary restrictions, that would be great, but you don't do those cakes. So, then there would be 2 cakes: 1 that you made that people without dietary restrictions may eat, and an extra one from a bakery for the people who have issues.
One thing you didn't mention is nationality. Is what he's talking about the norm where his parents are from? If yes, then you have to think carefully about what other cultural norms you might encounter that are very different from yours.
If it's not, then tell him you think it's a grand idea to send them on a great vacation to say thank you, but an entire year of you supporting the two of you is excessive.
Sit down and discuss what you see as reasonable, and let him explain what he thinks is reasonable. Talk about a compromise.
That's what marriage is, a compromise in many situations.
First question, can your cousin still go to the school if they don't live with you? I mean is the college affordable without your cousin living with you, or is that the only way it can be afforded?
If it's the only way, maybe you could speak to your younger cousin and see what you could work out. Maybe if she lived with you for one year, she could work for the money outside of school and be able to afford room and board next year
Have you sat down with her and just asked, "Why did you buy your wedding dress somewhere else?"
Because I think that's where this should start. Try to stay open and hear what she has to say.
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