Mamspinning
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NTJ! And, why does he keep yelling at you? His behavior concerns and confuses me. I'm sorry to be blunt, but he sounds awful.
YTJ. True... You were overshadowed at a party. You were not abused. You were neglected at a party. While this surely stung, your resentment surrounding this slight is not appropriate for an adult. Many family events are combined (to save funds and for other reasons). You say that your mother was a great parent to you when you were a teen. Not all teens had that blessing! Clearly, she messed up your communion experience. But, ditch the tragic irony and FORGIVE her.
NTJ. He had a good thing going, but now he needs to make a choice: Find a more affordable place, find a roommate, or move back home. Asking you to pay half the rent is not appropriate or logical.
Was your BIL wrong? Of course. But, you mention that you've always considered him "cool" and a "great guy." He messed up and was absolutely rude and out-of-line, but you went atomic. This is not worth ruining family relationships. (I'm always shocked by commenters who advocate to end family relationships over one fight. Shouldn't we strive to forgive, appreciate the good in people, and encourage those we love to do better when they mess up?) That said, your friendship matters, too. Too bad you could not call out your BIL in a different manner so that everyone could more easily mend and move forward. It would be right for BIL to apologize for offending you and Austin. It would also be wise for you to apologize to you BIL for the role you played in escalation. All the yelling seems immature. Also, why does Austin need to accept your forgiveness? Something seems "off" if Austin is so fragile you'd have to apologize endlessly to have him forgive YOU. This is odd.
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