People Ask That We Step In Their Shoes With Their “Am I The Jerk?” Stories

"I 19F and my sister 18F will have to move out in under a year as my parents are selling the family home and traveling around the world. My parents decided on this plan of me and her living together and in doing so would only have to pay the rent for one place instead of two. They have offered to pay for our rent as an apology for selling the house. I spoke to my parents in private and explained that I wouldn't want to live with my sister and gave some pretty good reasons why. She is incredibly messy and will not clean up after herself unless you bring it up. If you bring it up too often she starts crying and will make a ton of lame excuses as to why she couldn't do it. She has mentioned previously that when she moves out she wants her friends over as often as possible and wants to have a place to pregame before clubs. She can't cook very well so I guarantee I will be cooking for her, or at least having to help her whenever she needs help in the kitchen. She doesn't like to share and so I'll probably be stuck in my room as she will take over any lounge space we have. She also doesn't like compromise and both of our aesthetics are completely different, I know that she would get her way and I would hate what the apartment looks like. I would also get the smaller room as she would demand the bigger one. My parents told me I was being unfair and wasting a great opportunity of a free place to live. My sister has also found out and is mad that I'm throwing away free rent. I suggested they pay half of each of our rents and we live in separate places but they won't agree to that, so my sister is really mad as I am 100% the reason we are losing out on this "great deal."" Another User Comments: "NTJ - Your suggestion that your parents pay half for EACH of you is a good solution...why would they refuse? Because they want YOU to take care of your sister? A free place to live is only good if you enjoy living there - doesn't sound like living with your sister would be good for you at all." omeomi24 Another User Comments: "NTJ. Of course she's mad - she was going to get everything that she wanted, including a maid, bookkeeper, and live-in putz, until you put the kibosh on it. Guaranteed, if you go against your instincts, you will regret it. You know how this will end." CandylandCanada Another User Comments: "NTJ but just so we are clear here - they are going to pay rent on an apartment for a year, regardless. They will also pay utilities and food and such now as well. She gets to live for free by herself. You get to pay for a duplicate set of everything in exchange for not having to be in that situation. They will come back and buy the two-bedroom apartment and guess who lives in the second bedroom? They might be back earlier than that when she gets tossed from the apartment they rent. Stay far away and understand it’s not financially fair but your sanity and self-worth are worth more than “fair.”" nowaynohowanyway