People Take Off Some Steam In These 'Am I The Jerk?' Stories

"My sister (26F) and I (26F) work in the same place and tomorrow she made a doctor's appointment at 1 pm when she is supposed to be at work until 2 and I had the day off. She asked our supervisor if she could leave at 1 but our supervisor said that it was not a good day to ask for early off, as they were busy. Then my sister proceeded to tell the supervisor that I could take her shift without asking me if I could/wanted to first. I have my meetings tomorrow and plans but apparently "I can cancel those". Then my mom called me and tried to guilt trip me into taking my sister's shift because my sister has anxiety and is worried about whatever she has to have checked. And at the end of the conversation, my mom told me "Have a good life" and I'm being called selfish and stuff like that. I think there were other solutions to her problem rather than making that decision for me without my approval. If it's an emergency, she can go to the ER. She didn't even try to call the clinic to see if she could get an appointment after 2 pm. Let me know what you guys think. AITJ?" Another User Comments: "NTJ Here's another good reason not to work with family/partners. I would be sure to talk to your supervisor and let them know that your sister does NOT speak for you and they should please not assume that she has cleared anything with you, any more than they would for any other two coworkers." Salty-Initiative-242 Another User Comments: "NTJ, she shouldn't have volunteered you to take her shift for her without asking you first. I understand that making an appointment with a busy schedule can be difficult, but it's not reasonable to be relying on other people to get your things done." thatreader24 Another User Comments: "I covered my sister's shifts for a week at a new job of hers once so she could go on holiday - I wasn't very good and because of what I now know are medical issues I couldn't keep up with or cope with the work. It didn't end well - we both got fired (but not until the end of the week of course). The pay was bad anyway. NTJ - you're both grown-ups and you're not responsible for her or for her poor planning." Dramatic-Analyst6746 Another User Comments: "NTJ I remember going through crap like this with my sister when we worked at the same location... She can't legally speak for you to your boss. Call your boss & let them know you aren't picking up her shift. Make sure they know that unless you explicitly inform them yourself, you will not be picking up her future shifts. Your boss will be understanding, or they'll get frustrated. A good manager will be understanding. If they're a crap manager, you'll have to remind them of their place. If your boss doesn't want to deal with it & tells you & your sister to figure it out, tell them you are siblings, but you're legally individual employees. They need to discuss their other employee's shift with that employee. If they ask who's going to replace her instead of you, then tell them they need to discuss it with her. Be polite, but firm. Your boss also doesn't need to know why you aren't available. If they ask, say I already have other obligations (this is also what you should tell your sis & mom from now on. Stop explaining yourself to people who always invalidate your explanations. It'll keep them from leeching as much of your energy.). It seems pretty obvious where your sister gets her behavior. Your mom essentially threatened to disown you by her "have a good life" comment. That was very crappy & toxic. She & your sis are the ones being selfish. You are right. You shouldn't be a part of this." Here_IGuess