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"About 3 months ago a friend of my partner and her partner asked if they could stay at our house for a few weeks as they saved up for a new car. They offered us $200 a week because they travel the country doing UberEats and that’s much cheaper than staying in a hotel and nicer than sleeping in their car. Now I want to state even though this is my partner's friend they were never that close and we don’t really know her partner at all. She basically just watched her kid as a babysitting job and they kinda got along. It was fine for a few weeks, they gave us money and they worked every day. 3 weeks was cutting it because technically we aren’t even supposed to have guests that long in our apartment. The friend has a tumor and has seizures. At week 3 the car they had stopped working right. They couldn’t go out for long every day because it kept overheating and the girl had a couple of seizures. So we let them stay a bit longer. It’s been 3 months now. They’ve stopped giving us money completely. I am disabled myself and bring in very little income, so my partner is basically supporting four full-grown adults. I’ve been asking my parents to help lately but I can’t ask them forever either. They got the car kind of fixed about a week ago and my niece was supposed to come visit so I told them they had to be out by Tuesday. Well, today their car apparently pooped out completely. Now they’re asking if they can sleep in their dead car in the apartment parking lot…which they can’t because I don’t wanna risk losing my apartment as they shouldn’t have been here this long anyway. They used to be gone all day so it wasn’t a huge deal but now the car is just sitting there and management can see it so I’m worried about it messing up our security. She also had a seizure and went to the hospital yesterday and they are really laying on the guilt. I’ve been sick a lot since they’ve been here because I’m cooking, cleaning, etc and they have only offered one time in months to help and since they’ve been here I’ve noticed BUGS and I keep telling them to clean up their mess but yesterday when she had the seizure I moved stuff so they could get to her in the room I found bags of trash under their clothes and stuff. She was just crying saying she doesn’t know where they’ll go and part of me wants to move things around so she can stay because I feel bad but the other part of me wants to put my foot down and say they have to leave no matter what. But we can’t afford them anymore, I can’t clean up after them anymore and my family can’t come visit while they’re here. Would I be the jerk to put my foot down?" Another User Comments: "NTJ…Saying a firm NO now will be painful in the short term but very worthwhile. Think of it like this: they are actually very skilled at getting their needs met by preying on the good nature of others. They’ve completely lucked out with you. Are you sure the health stuff is true? I’d imagine if she’s having so many seizures from a tumor she’d be really very poorly. Learning to say no is a worthy skill to harness. Without it, you may spend the rest of your life supporting these two. And don’t lose sleep over them. They will likely find someone else to grift off." dundelady Another User Comments: "OP, obviously these people need much more assistance than you can offer. If they stayed with you another year, chances are that they would make no progress. Tell them they need to push the car to the curb and look up homeless shelters. In my area, homeless shelters can work with people to help get them benefits they may qualify for, help finding work, and help getting into permanent housing. For example, would the woman’s seizures qualify her for health care or disability payments?" Key_Plastic_3372 Another User Comments: "If I'm understanding this right, if your landlord/apt manager finds out you will be evicted? Correct? That is all you need to say. Lie if you must. I had a friend stay with me when he was going through a tough time for a while. I had him leave by telling him if management finds out I will be evicted. That was true. He understood and made other arrangements. Make sure you get them out before they establish a residence there. Receive mail, etc. Them staying there could cause you to lose your home. That is the only thing you need to say." superedubb