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"So me, 20f, and my brother 17m(almost 18) have been pretty close since always. Our parents never really took care of us, and I was his full-time caretaker from the age of 9 because, before that, our grandparents took care of us.
After we moved away, I raised him and made sure he had studied, eaten, had baths, etc. I was throwing away my childhood taking care of my parents' child, but if I could do it again, I would. I'm so grateful for having him in my life and I'm glad our parents didn't raise him because they did a terrible job with me (I can't say that here cause they will take down that post) I'm glad they decided that they traumatized one child enough and left the other alone (fr fr alone)Some years later, my brother came one night to my room, and we had a heart-to-heart conversation. He thanked me for making his childhood amazing while I had to lose mine to do that and that he loved me deeply for taking care of him even when I was a child myself.
He told me that when we are old enough we will live together and I promised him that. He said that now that he is older and stronger (he goes to the gym regularly), he will protect me because he knows I have been hurt before.After all, I kept my promise. When I turned 18, I left the house, and I took him with me some months prior despite our parents' protest. We live together now. The problem is my partner of 1 year that thinks that is creepy and I need to leave him with our parents.
He said that after 1 year of being together, we should stay together and not the 3 of us. I told him that that was not gonna happen and that he needed to respect my brother, we had a long fight, and he left. Some of my friends think that bringing him almost everywhere is creepy, but we just hang out a lot because we are close.My brother feels sad because of all of that, and I'm just mad, I don't know if I took it too far with the "protection," but I think that that's the right thing to do
Sorry for the long post
So, AITJ?"
Another User Comments:
"NTJ You're doing your brother a favor getting him out of that household. Your partner needs to understand this. On a separate note, keep an eye on your area's laws. I know some regions, especially in America have laws regarding housing minor children (since your brother is still 17).
Just make sure your parents couldn't retaliate and get you in legal trouble for housing their underage child" MyIdoloPenaldoAnother User Comments:
"NTJ, like you said you practically raised him and you took him from a bad place, your partner is a terrible person for even asking you to send him back to your parents when he knows YOU are your brother's home, you both are each other's safe space probably after the way you’ve guys had to grow up, and you should honestly dump him for being a weirdo about it being creepy because at that point you’ve taken the mother role and a decent human being wouldn’t ask a single parent to drop their kid so they can be together" [deleted]
Another User Comments:
"NTJ Just keep doing what you are doing with your brother because that's obviously what you both want right now and what works. Someday down the line, your brother may want to move out for any number of reasons. Maybe to attend a college, maybe for a job in a different location, maybe for a relationship.
But for now, it's working and you are an amazing sister. Don't let your partner or anyone else dictate how your relationship with your brother should look, that is 100% up to you." ColdButCool33