People Won't Quit In These 'Am I The Jerk?' Stories

"My (22F) partner (23M) last night was drinking and watching a football game with his buddies. I didn't have anywhere to go so I stayed in and decided to work on my college project that was due in a week or so in the kitchen. They had ordered pizza and chicken wings and they put all the food on the floor instead of on the table because there wasn't enough space. I told him to put it on the table instead but he ignored me and told me he'd clean it himself later. Anyway, I was trying to focus on studying but whenever a goal was scored they would get loud so I had to go sit outside on the balcony to completely focus. At one point they were making so much noise I had to go back inside to scold them like I was their mom to pipe down and let me do my homework. My partner told me sorry but they were watching a football game what did I expect and I told him that it was inconsiderate of him to not think about my studies. He told me that I wasn't even studying and I was also making Facetime calls but I told him it didn't matter I made those calls to ask my friends ABOUT the project. After his friends left he cleaned up thankfully but he left a drink on the floor so I kindly reminded him to clean it up. He got fed up with me and told me to stop nagging him like I was his mom and I should try having fun once in a while. We still haven't made up, am I the jerk?" Another User Comments: "YTJ: You knew about his plans beforehand. It's not like he sprung this on you while you were trying to study. You could have asked him not to have friends over before the event or made plans to study elsewhere. You don't get to scold him for behaving as expected during the social gathering." Impossible_Rain_4727 Another User Comments: "YTJ You decided to stay home knowing he was watching the game with the guys. You did everything in your power to ruin his night short of breaking the tv of shutting the power off. He even cleaned up, but you had to point out the one thing he missed." User Another User Comments: "YTJ, unless this happens very frequently, you need to make plans to let him have the space for a few hours. It sounds like you are jealous; that you don’t want him spending time with anyone but you or having a good time with anyone but you. If it was fully necessary for you to work on your project during this time you should have made better plans. As simple as going to the library." michael_entechsite