People Spill Their Most Mischievous 'Am I The Jerk?' Stories

"I (26m) had an engagement party last week that ended badly. My sister Tanya (28f) went through a lot in the last few years. She broke up with her partner because he wanted to move to Georgia and she didn’t want to leave California. She also quit her nursing job and is now a flight attendant. This didn’t go well with the rest of our family then. Everyone was harassing her for what she did and she ended up cutting off contact for a while. So my other sister threw an engagement party for me and my fiancée and invited everyone. And I mean everyone. At one point, Tanya had a nervous breakdown. It took a while to calm her down but when we asked what happened, it turned out one of my aunts was harassing my sister and asking when she would grow up. Things like when she was going to settle down and go back to nursing. No one could calm her down and she had to leave early. I’m honestly really angry at my aunt. She’s always been a helicopter aunt who can’t mind her own business but this time she took it too far. My sister had a mental health crisis thanks to her. When it’s time to send out the invites, I’m not planning on sending one to my aunt because what if she pulls this stunt again at the wedding? My mom, her sister, doesn’t agree. We don’t have a big family, to begin with, and my aunt never had kids so she treats her niblings like the children she never had (ie controlling). She thinks that it wouldn’t be fair to exclude her when everyone else is invited. My wife is on my side. My sister says that she doesn’t want to attend, and I’m going to respect that unless she says otherwise. My aunt, I am not interested in having it because what if she does this again? My mom says if I don’t invite my aunt, then she might as well not come either to support her. AITJ?" Another User Comments: "NTJ. However, I'm a bit confused: Your sister says she doesn't want to attend, so how can your aunt do the same thing again? Anyway, NTJ, aunt needs to stay in her lane, and even if she would feel like it's her job - it isn't - to talk to your sister in such a condescending way, and let's say she has good intentions for that, even then the right time & place to do so is **not** at a family gathering." DutchDaddy85 Another User Comments: "NTJ This is your wedding so invite who you want. I can see controlling and manipulative runs in your mum's side of the family so if she wants to not attend her own daughter's wedding in support of her sister - who caused her other daughter mental distress - then so be it. I hope your sister feels strong enough to attend. And I hope she is having a great time in her role as a flight attendant." Individual_Metal_983