People Tried To Hide These 'Am I The Jerk?' Stories

"I, F(34), am kind of a coffee nerd, so sorry for the details. For years, I've had the "hardware" and matching coffee beans to make coffee in at least 6 to 8 ways at home (starting from Bialetti stovetop coffee maker to coffee drippers, French press, Aeropress... You get the idea). Lately, I started to use a La Pavoni portafilter machine with a hand lever, which takes time to get used to, and sometimes the espresso tastes bitter. When my parents-in-law visited us a few months ago, they asked for crema coffee. I tried to adjust the espresso like my BIL told me to (experience from his standard portafilter machine). They took a sip and stopped drinking but didn't say anything. After lots of questions, they finally admitted the coffee tastes bitter, so I made a new and much better one (I secretly tasted to be sure) and offered all the other possibilities for coffee we had (filter, Aeropress, stovetop...) but they refused all other options. For context: My in-laws usually drink regular black crema coffee from a fully automatic coffee machine, which is ok, but imho there is room for improvement (e.g., adjusting the settings of their machine, etc.), but I never dared to mention anything or even complain as they wouldn't take it well. Most of the time I'm not even allowed to use it on my own. For further context: When we were on holidays together and shared a house, they had no problem with using the filter machine there and made fun of me because I brought my small Bialetti stovetop and some nice espresso beans. Since this visit, my MIL never fails to mention how awful this cup of coffee was, that I should get a better coffee machine, how well her (BIL) son knows how to handle his machine, and what a great cappuccino they make (they refused any milk when visiting us and usually never have milk in their coffee) — all comments I used to ignore with a smile. But for their next visit, they told us that they plan to bring their capsule coffee maker to our place to "get some nice coffee in the morning." At that point, I snapped, telling her that there is absolutely no need for this given the multiple possibilities for different types of coffee, naming all of them and saying that I feel this is pretty disrespectful, judging from one cup she didn't like and not even tasting anything else. Now, MIL is affronted because I spoke up and my husband is mad at me because I ruined the mood for their visit by "being rude and showing off" and "not taking criticism well." AITJ here?" Another User Comments: "YTJ they do not like your coffee. It’s great that you have a hobby. It’s also OK that they just want their morning coffee without all the fuss. Some people are like this." JustGettingThruToday Another User Comments: "YTJ. Taste is a subjective thing. Specially, coffee is an acquired taste. Just because you are a coffee nerd, and can make coffee in 100 different ways, it doesn’t mean everyone will like the coffee you made. If they like a coffee that you think is inferior, let them have that. You are kinda show off." Potential-Caramel896 Another User Comments: "OMG, your insecurity is palpable. I’d bring my own coffee maker just so I can have my caffeine fix without being a captive audience to your performative bids for attention. I have been a barista professionally. I am a HUGE coffee snob. I have moral arguments against capsule coffee (the plastic waste!). I would STILL NEVER be rude about a guest bringing their own capsule machine while visiting me. If my guest wants Folgers through a filter, that’s what I’ll give them. For screws sake. YTJ" Fried-Fritters