People Feel Cowardly In These 'Am I The Jerk?' Stories

"My BFF (17f) and I (17f) have been friends for almost ten years, and we have always spent holidays together in the same place for about three years now. Last year was the best holiday of our lives. We spent a month at the seaside without any of our parents, we made a lot of friends and everything, and she found a place in Scilla (the town where we are staying) where to take refuge and be happy, far from her family problems. Therefore, she is now very attached to the place and her dream is to spend as much time as possible there during the three months of holidays. We have always talked about being able to stay there for two months and not our usual month. This year my family is a bit messed up with money, and so I told her that if we wanted to stay in Scilla longer, we couldn't have flown down but taken the bus, which cost me much less and therefore saved me money to be able to buy me the maintenance of two months of holidays. She wasn't happy about this, saying that I was forcing her to go on a very long trip (my parents told me that without her, they wouldn't have let me go on the bus alone). All this was then discussed and clarified by December last year. Then in February, I discovered that my favorite group, who had never come to my country, would be doing a concert in my country. Not only that, it would be the first date since their debut in my country and the only date on the continent throughout 2024, so no small occasion. Having heard the news, I immediately told her that I would try to buy tickets. Usually, we always had the holiday last from June 20th to July 20th, but the concert would be held on July 12th, and I couldn't afford an extra return trip to leave and return from the holiday home, so I told her that the dates of the holiday should have been moved from June 10th to July 10th. She got mad and told me that I was selfish and only thinking about myself and that I had ruined her vacation and blah blah. At this point, I told her she was being immature. In the end, I went to my concert and had a blast, and she arranged another way with her partner (the problem with the new dates and that she wouldn't be able to live without him for three months), and we haven't spoken to each other for months now. AITJ?" Another User Comments: "NTJ. Sounds like your friend is bullying you to follow her idea of the "ideal" holiday. But no two years are the same - other things might come up, finances might be tight,... Also, why do you 'have' to go to the exact same place? My wife and I make it a rule to never go to the same location twice - we see a lot more of the world because of that! I understand you had an amazing holiday last year. And you could potentially have an even better one this year! But it doesn't have to be a carbon copy of last year's...!" Adventurous_Byte Another User Comments: "YTJ. You get that you selfishly changed y'all's already-decided plans, right? Like, I get this is your family's house, but you wouldn't have even been able to go without her. Also, you acting like you should get credit for not charging her to stay in your family's home is weird." [deleted]