People Get Called Out In These 'Am I A Jerk?' Stories

"I (17M) live at home with my two sisters and parents. My older sister (22) has been seeing her partner (21M) for three months now.

He’s been sleeping over at our apartment ever since they started seeing each other, but the frequency of the sleepovers has been increasing over the past few weeks.

Our apartment isn’t tiny, but it’s small enough that we all share a bathroom.

The room doesn’t have air conditioning and only has one window that doesn’t let a draft through. When you shower, the room steams up a ton, so my whole life we’ve just either left the door ajar or opened the door fully as soon as we stepped out of the shower and did the rest of our bathroom stuff.

The very first time my sister's partner slept over, I was getting ready to go to bed in the bathroom and had the door closed, but unlocked. I was taking off my boxershorts when he walked into the bathroom. He immediately apologized, closed the door and we never spoke about it again.

Well, last week I thought I was home alone and was taking a shower in the afternoon with the door ajar, as always. After I was done, I opened the bathroom door and continued with my routine (lotion, face cream, stuff like that) and noticed that my sister had come home during my shower.

When I was done, I walked into the kitchen to find my sister and her partner arguing. I didn’t want to intrude, so I left and soon heard the front door fall closed.

In the evening I made dinner for our family and while I was cooking my other sister (20) came and talked to me.

Our oldest sister and her partner's argument was about me and „my“ showering habits. He thinks it’s disgusting that I shower with the door ajar and feels uncomfortable with me using the bathroom in my own house.

This shocked me because, from the way our bathroom is set up, you can’t even see the shower from outside of the door.

I went to my other sister and asked her if this was true, and she refused to talk to me.

It’s not as if I was the only one that showered like this. We all do. I’m just the only one taking showers in the afternoon/evening when her partner is usually there because that’s when I come home from hockey practice.

So, AITJ for not completely closing the bathroom door while I shower?"

Another User Comments:

"YTJ in. It sounds like there are now 6 adults sharing one bathroom, which is bound to cause issues. But showering with the door open in an apartment with 6 adults is weird.

Maybe your family is used to it, but it is fair that someone else will be uncomfortable. Just close the door while you shower, then leave it open for the steam to clear once you’re done." No-Entertainment3435

Another User Comments:

"You're NTJ. Just because his parents won't let his partner sleep over at their place, that doesn't give this guy the right to impose his uptight sensitivities on the people who live in the home where he is a guest. OP has done nothing wrong and should not be expected to change his habits for his sister's guest." Dittoheadforever

Another User Comments:

"NTJ. You deserve to be comfortable in your own home and if that means leaving the door slightly ajar to let the shower steam out, I think that’s very reasonable. If it makes him uncomfortable that he might walk in on someone, he should learn to knock first (even if the door is slightly open).

It’s not like you are walking around out in the open." summerstorm74